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Look at this, two blog posts in a week.  

I've been pondering friendship lately.  I often do as my friend circle evolves and changes all the time.  I have a lot of acquaintances, but not a lot of friends.  It's changed because I used to have a lot more friends.  I don't want pity I'm just talking.  I made a decision a few years ago to circle my wagons and make that circle super small.  I'd been hurt by people who I thought were my friends.  They assumed things about me and did not come to ask me.  It was hard.

My children also have had these things happen and I wonder about friendship a lot.  What makes a good friend?  A friend is one who asks how you're doing.  A friend is happy for you in the good times and supports you in the bad.  It can even only be a text.  Of course, there are different levels of friendship, but this is basically it.

We've lost a lot of friends over the years and some because we knew why and some we had no idea about.  The only thing I hope for is that the friends who are no longer friends don't pervert the memories of our friendships.  What do I mean?  That they don't talk with their friends about us.  That we, either me, or any of my girls, don't become the subject of their gossip.  I hope they say, yeah, we were friends, but we aren't any longer.  It was good while it lasted but we drifted apart.  Or if there was a major event to cause the rift that they say, yes, we're no longer friends and leave it at that.  

I do grieve the loss of each and every friendship.  Except for one person (I'm working super hard on this and pray about it all the time), I try to look at the good side of things, the happy memories.  

I leave you with a picture because I like pictures in my blog post.  Michaela has been friends with Nathaniel (kid on the right) since 2005.