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Brother has learned a lot about friendship in the past couple of years.  He mentions that one guy he knows is not a good friend because he doesn't interact with him much.  This guy tends to ignore Brother especially when other boys are around.  This happens a lot to Brother.  But, until just recently, he didn't notice it.  Maturity can hurt.

He's figuring out that friends shouldn't just come over and ignore you at your own house.  It hurts him.  How do I know?  He was doing an exercise with his ABA therapist about this very topic and he started to cry about it.  He feels strongly but can't express himself so all he can do is cry.  

It's hard to sit back and watch his hurts.  I try to remind him of his friends who do hang out with him totally.  He has one good friend who has Asperger's who is just a wonderful friend.  They can both hang out but they completely understand when the other needs a bit of a break from sensory stimulation.  It's great.  They're amenable to each other's ideas.  It's been a good experience for both of them.  

I don't blame the other boys or at the very least try not to.  It's hard for mother bear not to come out, but I do try since really, they are just immature boys.

I understand about hurts regarding friendships.  Someone who I thought was a friend has been slowly pulling away.  I didn't recognize it at first but it's become pretty obvious.  Our daughters are friends so we'll always interact in some way but I realize that our friendship really has only been more surface.  I don't understand it and it does hurt a bit, but I do understand.  I don't know if I did anything to offend but if I did, I don't know what it is.